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Summer in the South

Barbara Rainey
July 24, 2008

Last week one morning, I came downstairs at 7:30 and announced to my husband that I was headed out for my walk “before it gets too much hotter” or I may have said, “before it gets any steamier” or something mildly derogatory about the temperature and air quality. He quickly said, “I really want to work on not being critical and negative. I feel like I’ve been slipping into that lately.”

This is a conversation we’ve had repeatedly over the last ten or more years. He was not aiming his comments at me and I knew it. My husband made a promise to himself that he was not going to grow old and grouchy at the same time. He watched several family members on his side become critical and gripey and just unpleasant to be around. We have no control over our years as the Psalms say, “In Thy book they were all written, the days that were ordained for me when as yet there was not one of them”, but we do have control over our attitudes and what comes out of our mouth.

I don’t enjoy walking in high humidity and high temperatures. I much prefer the cool of autumn or early spring. But my husband’s reminder was such a good one for me to give thanks in all things. “This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.” We are both committed to not begging for sympathy by talking about our aches and ailments to others. And we are equally committed to not complaining constantly about life and our circumstances. We want to be joyful as we age.

This morning when I went walking, early again, I started thinking about the good things that come with our heat and humidity. Right now it is peach season and nothing is better than Southern peaches. I bought my first sack yesterday and plan to go pick a bushel in the next few days. During peach season we eat peaches every day in a variety of ways and just having them in bowls and lined up on the window sill to finish ripening makes my kitchen happy. I love the color and smell of them.

A bit later in the summer we’ll have loads of fresh black eyed peas, purple hull peas, butter beans, green beans,  cornbread and south Arkansas pink tomatoes. Followed by more peaches. All of this is enjoyed with fresh cold iced tea sweetened or not with lemon. To really appreciate cold iced tea you have to be HOT!!! And all these goodies from local farmers have to have lots of sun and heat and moisture and rain to grow.

So I’m giving thanks for all the good things that come our way in the South in the summer. And I will not complain about the weather but enjoy the bounty that God provides.

And you can be sure I’ll be giving thanks for air conditioning, too!


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Anonymous @ 8/7/2008 7:31:43 PM 
Thank you so much for that blog! I'm responding several weeks after fist reading it, and wanted to say it really helped me. I realize I had been slipping into complaining and griping, and found Dennis' "promise not to grow old and grouchy at the same time" funny and helpful. I think when the kids were around I was so careful about my attitude because I wanted to be a good example. Now I was "giving myself permission" to complain about silly little things. I know some older people who are so cheerful and full of life, always thanking the Lord for His goodnes. I want to be one of those!
Anonymous @ 7/28/2008 12:11:25 PM 
Hi Barbara ~ just found your blog today. I'm really excited about it as Paul and I will be experiencing "empty nest" in just a few short weeks. Our youngest son will be heading off to college. I'm searching for all the insight I can get to help me cope with my sad feelings! It seems like yesterday we were new parents watching you and Dennis raise your 6 children! Amazing! It is awesome to see how God has blessed you since then. Blessings to you and Dennis! Angela Huenefeld
Anonymous @ 7/28/2008 7:20:34 AM 
Thanks for reminding us that we need to "rejoice in the day the Lord has made" because it is a blessing to wake up each morning, no matter what. There are enough things and people in our society that tell us "Chicken Little, the sky is falling" but, I too, will choose to sit there and drink iced tea while it does :o) Thanks again for the reminder.
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